Coaching & counselling

Beyond Insight : When understanding yourself isn't enough.

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You know what you do.

You may even have a pretty good idea why.  You've read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Explored ADHD, autism, attachment, trauma, people-pleasing or your childhood.

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But the patterns remain:

• You procrastinate.

• You struggle to say no.

• You repeat the same relationship patterns.

• You overeat, overwork or avoid things you know matter.

• You judge yourself for not being able to do what seems easy for everyone else.

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And eventually you wonder: What's wrong with me?

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Maybe nothing.

Maybe your behaviour makes more sense than you think.

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Look beneath the pattern

The things we struggle with can sometimes be attempts to protect ourselves, meet unmet needs, avoid something that feels threatening, or create a sense of safety.

That doesn't mean the behaviour is helpful.

It means there's something worth understanding.

My work is about getting curious about what's underneath — the beliefs, emotions, relationships and internal conflicts that keep you stuck.

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Because sometimes the breakthrough isn't another strategy.

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It's:

"Oh. There's a reason I do this."

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And from there, you may find more compassion, more choice and more freedom to do things differently.

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This might be for you if...

You're a psychologically curious adult who:

• understands yourself but still feels stuck

• is tired of trying to fix or improve yourself

• notices the same patterns repeating

• struggles with boundaries, self-worth, perfectionism or people-pleasing

• does things you don't fully understand

• suspects there's more going on beneath the surface

• wants exploration, not another list of things to do
   

How I work

I've been a coach for 15 years, with extensive experience supporting neurodivergent adults.

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I'm an NLP Master Practitioner and trainer in Systemic and Symbolic Modelling, with further training in Internal Family Systems, inner-child work, Compassionate Inquiry, adverse childhood experiences, and self-harm and suicide prevention.

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I've also spent the last 10 years working in palliative care and bereavement counselling.

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I bring all of this into my work with curiosity, compassion and a willingness to stay with complexity.

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I'm not here to make you a more efficient version of someone you don't want to be.

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I'm here to help you understand yourself deeply enough to discover what you actually want — and what might make change possible.

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Ready to look a little deeper?

You don't need to have the answers.

We can start with a conversation.

You bring the problem.
We'll get curious about what's underneath.

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I am not a therapist.  I will always ask where you'd like to put your attention, and we will only go as far as you feel comfortable exploring.  I get regular supervision and will recommend alternative practitioners if I feel that you need more support than I can offer.